It’s been a while since I wrote a personal blog. Lately I’ve been focused more on creating guides and travel tips. So, I guess it’s time to be a bit more personal again. This time, I’m talking about things I have learned from traveling.
We haven’t been in The Netherlands since we left to Australia in 2015. Returning home after this significant amount of time calls for some reflecting of what I’ve learned back over these past months. Personally, I think what you learn through travel is different for everyone. Because basically, everyone has a different experience.
I’m quite interested what you have learned through traveling, whether it’s a short or long trip. Let me know in the comments!
Traveling teaches you a lot about life
With this article I am by no means claiming I now know the secrets to life because of traveling – trust me I wish I did. And I think even if I had stayed at home, I would’ve learned a lot of (different) lessons. Life is all about growing and learning, right?
Often you don’t even realize that you are learning something new. It’s easier to reflect back than realising at the time how much you have changed. Although I haven’t figured out life at all, unfortunately, traveling does give you a kind of clarity and perspective. Below are eight things I’ve learned from 18 months of traveling.
1. You can’t plan everything
You may be a big planner and have all these cool ideas for your travels (or plans for life in general). Well, it just doesn’t always go the way you want. Eventually Jeffrey and I just stopped planning and just went with the flow. Because when we did plan, it often didn’t go as we expected. I must add that it isn’t a bad thing to plan ahead a bit. Planning can be very useful, but just realise that it can all work out differently. Therefore, it really helps if your plans are a bit flexible.
2. You can’t make everyone happy
It’s human nature to feel the need to care about other people’s opinion. For instance, some might not dare to go traveling because their parents and friends don’t approve. And, there will always be people trying to bring you down and make you feel insecure. Stop trying to be someone everybody likes. Because first of all, this is really not possible. Second of all, you might end up not being happy at all. If you are a people pleaser, you can end up living a life you don’t even want. Trying to be a people’s pleaser won’t make yourself happy.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be kind or considerate. Of course, I’m not saying you should be selfish. But, you will be so much happier if you don’t try to get the approval of others and just do what you want in life. Find a middle ground, be selfish in some important issues in life, and be there for people when they need you most. But don’t let people take advantage of you.
3. You will always miss out on something
Before we went on this big trip, one of my close friends asked me if I didn’t mind missing out on so many things back at home. Things like certain festivals, activities with friends and such. Yes, I did miss out on a lot of things. The thing that bothered me most was missing out on my little nephew growing up, more so than the many parties I wasn’t attending during my absence. My nephew was only one year old when I left, and I missed his first steps, his first words and so much more. Because those are the things you can’t relive, or take back.
If you decide not to travel because of the fear of missing out on all the great things with friends and family, you’ll miss out on the adventures you could’ve had while traveling. If it’s really your dream to travel, you might regret not pursuing it. And even though I’ve missed out on so many special moments, I’m happy to have had the moments during my travels and look forward to create new moments now I am home again.
4. Travel shows you who your true friends are
I consider myself lucky, because I have a group of amazing people that I know I can count on. Before I left for this big trip, I was really curious to see what would happen with those friendships. There are lots of articles that say you really learn who your close friends are when you’re gone. For instance this article by Nomadic Matt: Travel and the Art of Losing Friends. One of the quotes really stood out, it said: “Going away didn’t lose me friends; it had shown me who my true friends were.”
And now I’ve been away for so long, I tend to agree. Although I still have to reconnect with most of my friends, I already noticed via the ease of technology these days who I really still am connected with, and who kinda ghosted away. Friendship really is a two way street, so I’m definitely not blaming anyone. I’m also not saying it’s not possible to restart those friendships. Sometimes it’s just as simple as “out of sight, out of mind”.
5. During travel you make unexpected friendships
It can be harsh to lose people, but luckily traveling brings you a lot of unexpected friendships too. I noticed during this trip that I’ve made friends with people I probably wouldn’t even hang out with back at home. For instance, people that are quite a bit older than me, or people that just don’t run in the same kind of circles. Of course, also people from totally different countries with completely different backgrounds.
Jeffrey and I made friendships with people from all over the world, and we couldn’t be more thankful for that. Although we might not see these friends in our daily life, we know we will always be welcome in their homes, and vice versa.
6. You are privileged to be able to travel
I already wrote about this before, and will probably write more about it in the future. You see so many people claiming that “everybody can travel” and that it’s only a matter of chasing your dreams, saving money and quitting your job. Well, one thing I’ve learned is that this only accounts to a small percentage of the world’s population. Think about people in North Korea who can’t even leave their country. Or people that hold a passport that have trouble getting a Visa in most countries, like citizens from Afghanistan. These are just two minor examples.
Furthermore, besides these two examples, it really is a privilege for anybody to travel. Even though we have worked hard for this, and we definitely didn’t get anything handed to us, we are still very lucky that we had all the means to be able to do all this. Even people from developed countries have factors that limits them in chasing their dreams and go travel. Really, I’m not saying that if you are traveling or doing something else amazing, that you shouldn’t be proud. All I am saying is that we should’t forget that it really isn’t possible for everyone. We should be thankful and perhaps also think more about those people that don’t have the same possibilities.
7. You can’t be happy all the time…
…even when you are traveling.
This is something I’ve thought about a lot before I went. Will traveling make me happy? To be honest, I’m not even sure what being happy in life really means. Is there even one person in this world that is always happy? I think life consists out of moments of happiness, combined with moments of unhappiness. Without the bad, there is no good, so that way you can actually know that you are happy in a moment. Otherwise you just have the same feeling all the time.
I wrote one of my first posts a few days before we left for this big trip. In that post I wrote that traveling is often glamorised, and that I was wondering whether I would be happy because of traveling. There are so many articles that claim that travel makes you a happier person. Well, my personal experience is that traveling didn’t necessarily make me happier. Just like in my “regular” life, I had good moments, and bad moments. But I do think both of these feelings were intensified while traveling.
I had lots of fleeting moments of pure happiness. But I also had some of my darkest moments in my life during this trip. Because when you travel, you really do get out of your comfort zone.
Like I said in the beginning of this article, these lessons are based on personal experiences. Although many articles claim that traveling makes you a happier person, be aware that this doesn’t mean that you will be on cloud nine throughout your trip. You will have bad moments too, you just have to get through these and embrace the happy moments.
8. It’s all about the little things
When you travel, you start to miss things from back home. I’ve noticed that for me the things I missed most were simple little things. Going to the grocery store. Having dinner with my family. Laughing over wines with my friends. Or just sitting in the passengers seat in the car, looking at familiar trees and buildings from my home town.
When you travel, you get a new perspective. Although landing your dream job, getting married and other big moments in life can bring you happiness, it is only a rush. If you focus more on the little things in life, it can really bring you a bit more happiness.
These are eight things I have learned from traveling. I can probably come up with a much, much longer list. But, these were the things that popped in my mind immediately as I was writing it, and I think that this means they are the most important lessons for me. There are still so many things to learn, and I can’t wait to see what life will bring me now I am home again.
Marije from Our Traveldreams told us one of the things she learned during traveling in our comment section below. We will add it here in English, because we think it’s a very important lesson:
My addition: I’ve realised that we have to be more mindful of Planet Earth. All the plastic in the ocean and streets (especially in Asia). Or burning down rainforest to create plantations for products like palm oil. I try to be aware of how my (buying) behaviour influences these things, and I hope I will continue to do so at home.
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